Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Topics for discussion: Sex

Back with this week’s topic of discussion; Sex. I know something similar was spoken about last week but this week’s topic is much different and you'll read why soon. I wanted to speak on the difference between sex and love, and also what I believe defines being promiscuous and respecting yourself.


Let me begin by giving you my views on what sex is. Sex to me has three levels. The most basic one is ****ing (for lack of a better word, sorry). It is purely a physical attraction between two friends, strangers or lovers. Not much emotion involved and that is acknowledged by both parties, just a physical thing. And then you have sex. Engaging in something a little more emotion driven, with two people who care for one another and decide to take things to a physical level. Then there is making love. That is where you really care and love someone, where you put all of your heart and emotion into it and make it special and passionate. Now that we have established my views on that, I'll start to begin to speak on how I actually feel about sex, and certain responsibilities one should have.


As some of you may know, I love women and am sexually active. As a 19 year old young man I feel like there is nothing wrong with that as long as it's safe. The problem with that to some people, is the number of sexual partners you have. Now, I won't get into how many I have personally but I will discuss my views on whether it is or isn't appropriate at 19, to have multiple partners, and what is too many. Now some of you may think, "there is never too many man!", but I disagree. I feel personally, when you engage in the act of sex with too many people you not only devalue yourself but also the act. Not to mention it doesn't make the other person feel very special either. Sex is something serious. It can be fun and occasionally it's great to take it to that first level but not all the time.

Personally I believe men and women have sex very different ways. Now, I apologize for this big generalization I am about to say, but... Women have sex with their emotions and men have sex JUST to have sex. Sure men can make love and have meaningful sex but, our bodies work very differently. If you are looking to have a relationship, I feel as if you should wait until you are in one to have sex. No man will ever look at you in a negative way for making him wait, if anything it will make us respect and care for you more. Any man who doesn't want to be with you because you won't have sex with them is someone you shouldn't be in a relationship with. Now if you are going to have sex before committing to one person make sure the level of trust and respect is there. Those two things are extremely important and I cannot express that enough. If there is no trust or respect there should be no sex. As well as comfort level. If you are not completely comfortable with your partner it shouldn't happen.

Now, to speak on what I believe a "hoe" is. The defining factor on what makes some one a hoe or not is the mindset, not necessarily the actions you engage in. If you go around having sex without any regard for your own self respect or the self respect of others and doing things just because "they is mad cute" then you might be a hoe. But if you're happy with being a hoe then more power to you! As long as you're safe and happy than there is nothing really bad about that. I believe everyone should be a hoe at point in their life. On the other side of the spectrum, you could have many sex partners, but have self respect and genuinely care and respect all the people you are with, then no, you are not a hoe. Everyone has sexual needs an as a mature, responsible person you are free to express that how you please.

I hope I gave some of you different perspective on sex and what it means. If I can enlighten and help others look at sex in a more positive light than yay! If not, maybe next weeks topic. I just want to leave off by saying ALWAYS use protection, even if the girl is on the pill or whatever. Nothing bad can come from it. And never rush it, no one has ever been disappointed or felt badly about waiting for the right time. Sex can be a great thing if gone about in a mature way. Get Some!

9 comments:

fmc said...

you are totally right ! i have similar point of view and appreciate that you are full of respect but in the same time you are frank. thanks for sharing thoughts !

Anonymous said...

why did you censor yourself? and secondly, this post is not cool. you want people to discuss a way how to denote somebody?

Anonymous said...

why did you censor yourself? and secondly, this post is not cool. you want people to discuss a way how to denote somebody?

∆DEEN! said...

because I do not curse on my blog, and ummmm that is wrong usage of denote.... lol

Anonymous said...

When you use the word "hoe" I hope you are using it as a reference to both men and woman. Please don't subscribe to the double standard. In this day and age women are allowed to be as sexually free as men.

Like you say, when you gotta get some... GET SOME.

Anonymous said...

but women are hoes....for them it's SOOOO much easier to get laid than a man....how many bitches you here complaining about how they can't get dick? unless they fat or ugly (and even then some dude is still desperate enough........to them "a hole is a hole")

Anonymous said...

"but women are hoes...." looks like someone is having a hard time...

Anonymous said...

^ oh, I see we have a hoe here

Anonymous said...

Can u go further into why/how men can just have sex with no emotional attachment.