Monday, February 28, 2011

Topics For Discussion: Self Esteem

Hey you guys I'm back this week after a 2 week hiatus from these things. They just take a bit more time to write than I'd like to have time to. But back this week I have a topic of self esteem and self image issues people have. I understand but at the same time I don't. I used to have a real problem with self esteem and self image issues but overcame them in time. Not because I got cute or whatever, but because I found what really makes me happy, and I realized that the only person who is guaranteed to love you even if no one else does... is yourself. What made me realize this is when my father left. I realized that even if my own father would leave me, and he "loves" me. The only person who is really gunna be there for you and love you is yourself. So When i see people saying "omg why cant I look like her" or "ugh i hate the way I look". I just want to shake that person and tell them to appreciate the way they look. You will never be happy if you don't like what you see. Accept who you are and be happy you look like YOU and no one else. No offense to the twins to who read this. And there are some things people can do to work on their appearance. Don't complain if the things you are un happy about are 100% fixable. I don't mean to sound to come off as mean, rude or non understanding. I just know what some of you feel and felt. The thing that helped me feel better about myself and made me a lot happier was finding style. Which is a little ironic because a lot of people say that fashion and style is a superficial industry that only makes people hate what they look like. But, here I am completely happy with myself because I found fashion and style. Now, style may not be your instrument of happiness, but there is something out there for everyone. And there are always your friends and family you have. I've been lucky enough to have grown up to look they way I do and I feel incredibly lucky and am thankful. But even if I didn't grow up to be "good looking" I would still be happy with the way I look and who I am. Because I am happy, and I have found people who I keep around me who I am happy with. Life isn't all about looks, but being happy with who you are as a person and acceptance of who you are. Learn to love YOU. Or you will never be truly happy. 

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

this is complete bullshit.............so you are saying that if you were ugly and had terrible, really really bad acne, and had messed up teeth you'd still love that about yourself? i mean haven't you ever once wanted to look, or have the features of another person? (like a person's hair, or lips, or something?)

and you say looks arent everything but arent you the one who posts pics up of "betties" every day? seems like you post them up cause of their looks

you have also made fun of people cause of their looks (dont try and deny it)

Anonymous said...

word this shit is straight bullshit, i remember your mean videos, making fun of ppl for no reason...why u tryna be all sensative now.....n as for ur good looks boy are u gassed...all 5 feet....but u cud dress :)

∆DEEN! said...

Im saying its POSSIBLE to love yourself and your life no matter what you look like. You dont have to be pretty or beautiful to be happy with yourself. and HELL no i have never wanted to look like someone else.

and yes, Im not saying its wrong to like others for being beautiful. and i make fun of other peoples style because they obviously try to hard. lol fall backkkk with the criticism of ME! lol talk about the topic!

∆DEEN! said...

and the Remy and Eric show, we made fun of people we were friends with lol why you stalkin my viiidddeeooosss though

Anonymous said...

lol i am talkin about the topic....but i mean come on remy, lets be serious.............looks matter a little bit.....think about it, how can you judge a person's personality if you've just met them? thats where looks come into play

for example, if u saw someone approaching you who looked like a rapist/murderer....... its not like you are gonna just say "oh thats just how they look, im sure they are a nice person on the inside" even if they are, their outward appearance says different

so yes i agree with you on how looks arent the only thing that matters....but they do have an influence on how we judge people

∆DEEN! said...

looks matter to CERTAIN people. I know personally, yes they matter to me. Im not saying that. I actually didnt say a single thing about judging others. I was talking about self image. But i know PLENTY of people who dont judge people on looks. Like my ex GF amanda doesnt ever really take looks into consideration when finding someone to date. She really only goes for peoples personality. BUT again i didnt say anything about judging others

Anonymous said...

i know you didnt say anything about judging others............i was just trying to make a point that you saying "you should love yourself" is a lot easier said than done.........in this society we live in, people judge one another primarily on looks (including facial features, hair, skin color, weight, etc.)

so its hard to love yourself when people tell you that you are ugly....or if you feel like an outcast cause you look much more different than those in your surroundings........is it impossible? no, but it does make it difficult to love yourself when you feel you are being judged negatively

amanda sounds like a great woman............you let that get away?! lol

Lo said...

Well this could be interpreted as, First love your yourself, then once you evolve as a person your looks will follow and improve for the better. Just like ADEEN went through.

For me im not an ugly, but I've surrounded myself with people that have constantly picked on me and brought me down. Now its hard for me to not want to be anything but someone else.

Anonymous said...

I KNO SO MANY UGLY PEOPLE WHO EMBRACE THEY'RE UGLINESS. WHY CAN'T PEOPLE JUST BE HAPPY WITH THE WAY GOD MADE THEM.
I MEAN. IF YOU UGLY, U UGLY.

IF U NOT, U NOT.

GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!!!!!

∆DEEN! said...

man trust me i know all about not being accepted by todays society and all that jazz. Im half white half mexican and jewish. Im not fully accepted by ANY of those groups but I just live my life. I get Criticism all my life. im just comfortable to laugh it off when its funny and just boo it when its not. and when its harsh remember I love myself, flaws and all and remind myself of those who love me for the same reasons.

and as far as picking the right people around you, its important but TRUST ME, my group of friends aren not nice at all lol BUT they love me like brothers. I just know that I dont CARE what others view me as because I know who I am and what makes me happy, and I have a loving and caring family.

Anonymous said...

haters gon hate .

so if you ugly. just be ugly and Fuck da haters.

Anonymous said...

i can completely see what you're saying here adeen but when i see you with girls it doesn't seem like you want to get to know their personalities exactly...

Anonymous said...

i agree u should love your self no matter how you look or what people say about the way you look because you should be proud to be you and no one else and remember God made each of us in his image so we are all good looking/ pretty / cute and us Mexicans do accept you because your a good roll model for Mexicans and we are very happy and proud of having someone like you from our country

Anonymous said...

Im definitely not trying to be rude or hate or anything, Ive actually been a fan for a long time but I remember you writing something a long time ago about how when you were younger you wished you had blonde hair and blue eyes and how you came to terms with it and learned to love and accept the way you look.I thought that was great and frankly I think every person at one point or other longs to look like someone else. Its how you handle and overcome it that will decide your happiness.So you saying that youve never wanted to look like someone else isnt true. As for your ex girlfriend Amanda I thought she was sooo pretty & you guys were cute. I especially liked her nose. I wanted her nose. But anyways that was my 2 cents. Keep doing what youre doing because your great at it.