Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Topics For Discussion: Homosexuality

So, I've decided to have a section on this blog to show a bit of my deeper side. My "intellectual" side opposed to my visual and style side. Bring up things and topics and have discussions that spark thought rather than visuals. Feel free to comment and leave your thoughts. Any comment is welcome, wether you disagree or you agree or anything really. This first Weeks topic is Homosexuality. 




Its definitely a controversial and touchy topic. Some people get called gay just for speaking too liberally about it. But to me I feel like... with the bit influence and voice I have, I feel like I have some duty or responsibility to express my way of thinking, and maybe help others formulate opinions and thoughts. Now me being in fashion as a heterosexual man, it can be difficult sometimes. Not necessarily dealing with my sexuality but just wanting to be portrayed as who I am, and understood for my vision. Just because I am in the business of style and the business of fashion does it make me less straight. Just because I dress a certain way it doesn't make me less straight or less of a man. I feel like some of my readers may have this problem at their school or in their neighborhood. They may get teased or made fun of or are misunderstood because of the way they dress. I know I was. Its difficult when there are ignorant people in this world who refuse to understand what is not normal to them. But please try to remain true to who you are and how you want to express yourself. Clothes will NEVER define what your sexual orientation is, EVER. Please remember that. But aside from the visual part of "looking gay". I also wanted to state my views on what makes someone gay or not (I hate to directly say or label someone, as it is up to them, as anything in the first place, so pardon my lack of a better statement). Recently I have been seeing people debate this on twitter, facebook and other outlets. People tend to base people on their sex acts rather than who they love. I feel like you can DO gay things and HAVE gay sex, and NOT be gay. If you can never LOVE a woman like you LOVE a man. Then you are probably gay. But if you could never love a man, like you can love a woman then you are most likely straight, regardless of who you have sex with. You can have gay sex, but it doesn’t make you gay. Sex acts only define who you like to have sex with. But, obviously not every one who is straight chooses to engage in homosexual sex acts. The sexual acts are the choice. The people you are with, based on LOVE is something you are born with in my opinion. Now none of this is fact and many of you may disagree with me and that is ok, I really have NO problem with that. And NO, this is NOT me coming out and saying I do any of these things. Or me leading up to saying I do these things. These are my views based upon people I know and observations I have made, and just how I feel really. Now, I am fully aware I am probably going to be called gay just for having this view on things, as I have previously lol but... That to me is RIDICULOUSLY stupid. As a THOUGHT, and an OPINION most definitely cannot make you gay. BUT! Not to ramble. These are my views and my thoughts. I will be doing this once a week, with a different topic every week. If you guys want to suggest a topic feel free to. Comment and discuss away you guys! Thanks for reading!


-REMY

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

interesting. i agree. but this thought can be used to deceive.

Anonymous said...

interesting. i agree. but this thought can be used to deceive.

Anonymous said...

very interesting its good 2 know ur not a close minded guy but if u think about it what u said is all true and clothes does not make u gay that's stupid. a topic i think u should talk about is immigration whats is ur opinion on immigration and do u think they should get a reform to become legalize ?

Dezzi said...

Great topic! I remember a time when I spoke openly about other females. For example, like calling them hot or sexy.(Usually towards celebs. Female crushes are normal. lol) My friends started to exchange looks with each other as if they thought I was a lesbian which is not the case. It's just that if I see an attractive person whether it be a male or female I just speak out on it because they are just too noticeable for me to not say anything. No I wouldn't go straight up to them and be like "wow you're hot". It's just my opinion. From that point on, I basically spoke out on it with my friends and told them that I don't care if you call me gay, lesbian, bisexual or whatever because I know what I am. God knows what I am.

And I absolutely agree with clothes not defining what your sexual orientation is. I wish there were more guys like you Remy out in my area because a lot of them don't get it. smh lol -__-

Dezzi said...

I have a question though. How do you feel about people saying "no homo" constantly every time they give a compliment to the same sex?

Anonymous said...

you're gay, come out the closet already.

Jamar said...

i've been called gay many a times based of my choices in apparel or for the way i behave sometimes. but i am straight. in my opinion a lot of the times people are just ignorant to things & people they don't understand. but it's just the way i am. but people will always judge one another, be yourself FUCK THE WORLD.

Anonymous said...

good post but i know u copied that directly from someone's Tumblr because I saw it yesterday in them EXACT words.. but its nice you agree with them, you should have gave the other person credit though....

Jason said...

This was honestly really interesting to read. I get called "gay" at school all the time simply for expressing myself through fashion and wearing the things I like. And this really reinforces just wearing whatever the fuck you want. Same thing with saying a guy is good-looking. Once those words come out of your mouth, to everyone around you you're "gay".

Looking forward to more of these. Can I use this as a reference and for quotes for my research paper on gay marriage?

∆DEEN! said...

lol that was my tumblr, anonymous

Anonymous said...

Im going to post this as anonymous but i have gay sex and i dont think it makes me gay like i could never see myself emotionally attached to another man. I wouldnt even attempt to because I know it wouldnt work. I thought I would never ever ever even kiss another man but hormones are crazy especially at 19 so its like damn i really actually like having sex in general, men and women both but i am infatuated with women and can only see myself with a woman for the rest of my life. Would you have gay sex?

Anonymous said...

yo u engaged in sexual acts with a man?? holla at me~! <3

tulga

Anonymous said...

Omg i have the same exact problem. People jump to conclusions because i'm a fashion major in my skool, and cause of how i dress. Even friends. they make little smart remarks and shit, its annoying as hell. Just cause i wanna b a designer and i wear nice clothes doesn't make me gay. Even some old friends. like i used 2 talk 2 this group of guys freshman yr wen i was alot more reserved w how i dress, now i'm a junior and i kinda dress "out there". i'm not as close 2 them(not cause of how i dress but because we dnt relli see each-other like that) , but we still say whasupp 2 each-other but how they look @ me kills me,looking me up and dwn... like i noe what they're thinking.
It just sux that u cant be what u want or sometimes are ashamed of what u wanna do just because its a certain "genders job".

ohh and as far as the gay sex thing idk about that, lol thats something else. If u have sex with a guy ur gay... or bi.

Anonymous said...

That was a great read Remy..It was very interesting.

Anonymous said...

great speech remy..u should talk about racism

Anonymous said...

i completely agree. i'm a straight girl, and i'm only attracted to men when it comes to who i love or think i'd like to "be with". however, the idea of girl/girl sex... IDK, it seems enjoyable and pleasurable. sex is an act of desire... whether it's just because you're curious or because you think it would feel good. making love is completely different, because that's when you are MAKING. LOVE. loving someone and having sex with them are completely different and shouldn't be seen as the same thing in any matter... people just need to be open and really think about what they say.

Rachel said...

I like that Remy. I mean even though I don't completely agree with everything...like gay sex, I respect the way you expressed your feelings about it because many people would be scared to even mention it. And with dressing, I think that your right...to a certain point like if you dress like a drag I think your gay lol but other than that yea your style of dress does NOT make you gay. Thanks again Remy :p